Sometimes we treat our questions as if they’re answers. Don’t know what I mean? Let me give you a few examples.
You’ve met someone. They are kind and polite. They make you laugh. You find it easy to talk with them and feel relatively comfortable around them. You’re just not sure if you’re attracted to them.
Running is fine. You’ve been training for a 5k and you’ve seen your endurance build over time. You’ve actually found that you feel better after a run and you’re surprised to find that you can run further than you thought. Your friend asks if you’d be interested in running a half marathon with him. You’re just not sure you have it in you.
In both scenarios, you’re asking a question: am I attracted to them? Can I run a half marathon? But you’re not treating them as questions. You hear the doubt, right?
When something feels scary, we are often looking for an out. So, instead of treating our fears like a question, we treat them like answers. We avoid the thing that scares us. We’re afraid of failure, disappointment, discouragement, etc. and so we don’t take the next step.
How might life look different if we treated these fears as questions? What if you just started training? You don’t have to be able to do it today, you just have to have the courage to take the next step and see how that goes. Same with dating. You don’t have to know if you’re attracted to them today, you just take the next step and see how it goes.
This could apply to a thousand scenarios: a job, a new skill, public speaking, the list goes on. What about you? What questions do you need to be asking? Taking the next small step leads to answers. And the process of trying the next step leads to confidence and more steps. We are often capable of far more than we expect we are, but we sell ourselves short when we aren’t willing to ask the questions and take the steps to find the answer. So, what’s your next step?
